Tuesday, February 28, 2012

to cut or not to cut.

THAT is the question...

lately i have been contemplating doing this...


welll.... maybe not THAT drastic.
i'm not pulling a britney...

the long hair
as of late. 

as in i hate it and want it gone.
til i do it.
and then i'll want it back!

but lately, i've been finding soooo many cute pics!
of shorter hair do's.

and its soooo tempting.
like this

or this

or this
(images via Pinterest)

i had it short a few years ago...

i actually had it even shorter originally but that's about
the length i'd go.

help me decide...

Thursday, February 23, 2012

It's OK Thursday...

I got one word for ya's today. SH!T.
Sorry Honey Its Thursday!

One day closer to Friday...
its so close i can taste it.

But until we get there i'm linking up

And here we go!

It's TOTALLY ok...

that i spent all of last night playing Bejeweled Blitz on my phone
and trying to catch up on episodes of Hart of Dixie
so much that i almost didn't even cook dinner!

that i was 15 min late to church to get ashes
for Ash Wednesday
even though the service was only about 20 min long.
and it was because i had a dermatologists appt.
a clear face is a totally legit reason, no?

that because of "womanly issues" after my shower this morning,
i went back to sleep on the couch
in fetal position
for another half hour
which made me a little late for work!

that i didn't realize til around noon
that my underwears are on inside out
that's what happens when you get dressed
in the dark!

that i'm mooching off mom&dad for dinner tonight.
she even called to ask me if chili was ok...
i resisted the urge to say ANY food is fine by me!

It's SOMEWHAT ok...

that i have ZERO work to do today...
but that i'll probably be swamped tomorrow.

that i'm actually looking forward to catching
the Knicks game tonight
because i may have a small case of

that i've banned myself from any 
"recreational" shopping 
for the next couple months
so i can pay off some MAJAH credit card bills.

that i'm contemplating chopping my hair
but can't decide if i should or not.

It's NOT ok...

that i've had laundry sitting in the dryer
since Sunday.
can we say wrinkled?!

that i wore a blazer today
with a winter coat over it
only to feel like a fat panda
that couldn't bend my arms while driving to work

that i somehow have a subscription
that i didn't sign up for
to Golf World
i don't read it
and wish they would stop sending it.

that my entire tax refund is going
to pay bills.
OK, that IS ok, but i'm still grumpy about
not using it to shop.

what's ok (or not ok) with you today?

Wednesday, February 22, 2012

Drinky, Dranky, Drunky: Pinteresting Edition

Finally joining in on Pinteresting Wednesdays again! 
Link up here!


Anyway, the theme of this week's pins are.... DRINKS!
as if you couldn't tell from the title of this post!

And as you might know one of my all time FAV drinks (sans alcohol) is this!

So when I saw this pin on how to make homemade Cherry Limeade,
I was ALL over making it pinning it.
I have yet to try it out for fear that I might become completely addicted,
but I might just have to break down and try it
(for scientific testing purposes and to report to you if it tastes like the real thing!)

This slushie looks amazing! And Riesling IS one of my favorite wines.
I think the fun cup and straw in this picture makes the slushie look even better.

Who doesn't love a pink girly drink?
say it with me Frozen French Lemonade.
Oui? OUI!

One more NON alcoholic drink that's AH-MAY-ZING...
Thai Iced Tea.
I had my first one a few years ago...
O em gee. Heaven in a cup.

And last, a frosty summery watermelony bevvy.
oh and did i mention its a margarita too?

Find me on Pinterest here

Happy Hump Day!

Monday, February 20, 2012


So tonight is the first night my husband starts his new shift. We've been very fortunate that he was able to land this job with better pay and doing something that he'll enjoy more. But, unfortunately, his shift is now 4pm - midnight... so my nights just got a heck of a lot more lonely (though Scooter is here to keep me company, and his sweet smelly doggie kisses are just irresistible). I'm trying to look at this as a blessing in disguise... here are the pros and cons...

  • more time for girly stuff like face masks, painting nails, and picking out outfits that correlate to ones i find on Pinterest
  • i can watch all of MY shows vs ESPN and NFL network... yes, i always give in to watching what he has on. i'm such a NICE WIFE! ironic enough, i just spent the past 2 hours watching the knicks game by myself (they lost. booo. still love lin tho!)
  • this girl's getting her {fat} arse back to the gym
  • more time to BLOG! (though, i have taken to blogging at work again. i just couldn't stay away)
  • no rushing home to have dinner on the table at a reasonable hour... and if i want a bowl of cereal, i don't have to feel bad. actually G said he might even be cooking for me in the afternoon, so i'll come home to a fully cooked meal. how awesome would that be!
  • i can pick up some hobbies that i just haven't had time for - knitting, scrapbooking, reading (yup, i sound like the typical 70-year old)

  • less QT with the hubby (i'm totally going to miss hanging out with him every night)
  • lots of solo dinners
  • being that G won't be getting home til 1am, he probably won't be hitting the hay til about 2 or 3am, therefore sleeping in... that means i have to pick out my outfits the night before unless i want to have to get dressed in the dark with a flashlight
  • most of my friends are home with their husbands, i spend my nights with my dog

OK, so OVERALL... the pros outweigh the cons... so we'll see how it goes... whether i like it or not, i'll have to adapt to this new lifestyle, and i will. might just take a few nights of me really missing my hunny to adapt...

back to work tomorrow... guess i better go try to pick out my clothes for tomorrow...
have a good night!

Friday, February 17, 2012

Fashion Friday: Pink Sandal Date Night

Linking up with Blonde Episodes for Fashion Friday,
and I just can't wait for some warmer weather...
this is what I'm dreaming of today...Pink Sandal Date Night

Wouldn't this outfit paired with the *perfect* pair of FUN stiletto sandals be
so FAB for a spring/summer date night?
If you're like me, sitting in your office,
blasting your space heater,
I know you'll be drooling over all these amazing spring shoes!
Now, I usually stay more neutral with my footwear,
but some of these sandals are just to die for
and i would LOVE to have any of them in my closet...

CALYPSO ST BARTH long t shirt
$299 - calypsostbarth.com

Theory hot shorts
£85 - flannelsfashion.com

WALTER STEIGER strappy heels
$1,075 - barneys.com

Christian Dior platform sandals
$950 - bergdorfgoodman.com

Carvela peep toe shoes
£120 - johnlewis.com

Lipsy pink shoes
£70 - debenhams.com

G by Guess platform sandals
$55 - heels.com

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Lessons in Love

Hi ladies! Happy Valentine's Day! With the theme of love in the air, I thought I'd take the time to give you a few pointers I've picked up over the years. I've been through a lot in my 33 years and while I'm definitely no expert on love, I have been dealt my fair share of ups and downs some of which I'd like to share with you today. I figured it's fitting for today!

A little background on me for those of you who don't know me so well... like i said, i'm 33... i had a pretty... full... dating life from the ripe young age of 16 on... no i wasn't a hoochie mama (not the whole time anyway!) but i truly believed that in order to find my soul mate i would have to date a lot of fish and throw most back in the sea to even know what kind of fish i liked! i met my first (yes first, now EX) husband when i was around 21. We didn't start dating until i was 25 and eventually got married. the beginning of our relationship was great. we were both loved to party, had a ton of friends and thought we had it all figured out. we had a HUGE wedding, got 2 dogs, and a condo that i paid for... and then our marriage which was only 11 months old fell apart. Long story short, it involved a 2nd DWI for him along with him quitting his job and trying to open up a brand new business having no experience in either business or dry cleaning (yes he opened a dry cleaners, no he is not asian). So, 11 months. a little longer than the infamous kardashian-humphries drama, but still not something i'm very proud of. however, what i am proud of is what i learned in that period of my life. Followed by a couple of years of living on my own and finding out who i was. In that time i ended up throwing a few more fish back into the sea, and then i finally met AND MARRIED the love of my life 5 months ago. 

so without further ado i present to you "Shay's Top 10 Rules for Finding your Soul Mate" with some "footnotes" of personal wisdom to go along with them.

1. Life is too short to be unhappy, so seize the moment and find your happiness.
I was in a pretty bad car accident a few years ago. My SUV was t-boned by a pick up truck that ran a red light. I didn't have time to react, think or have my life flash before my eyes. BAM! I thought I was dead. After the jaws of life got me out of the car accompanied by 6 HOT firefighters, i was lucky enough to walk away with only a few scratches. After that, i realized how fragile life is, and how we never know when it could be our time to head towards the light. At the time, every morning as i drove to work, i would be wishing i was somewhere, anywhere else on earth. I fantasized about getting in my car and just leaving my life behind. EVERY.DAY. I felt trapped in a marriage and a life that I didn't know how to get out of. And i let it control me, i let it take me, i let it depress me. And then i realized, we only get 1 shot at this thing we call life, so it was time for me to own mine, reclaim it from all the mental and verbal abuse i was allowing to happen to me, take control of what i could and if my ex wasn't willing to give up his nasty drinking habit for OUR future, then i had to give up on him. It wasn't a happy ending at the time, but the happiness came eventually.

2. Believe. In yourself, in your partner and in love. 
This has been a repeating lesson for me over the years. Its hard to get back up when you fall down sometimes, its hard to believe there is someone out there that is a truly good person when you're so scarred from someone who wasn't so great. Its hard to believe that you deserve to find love and happiness, but believe me, you deserve it unless you're a mean girl. And i think you have to start by believing in yourself and in the power of love before you can believe in anyone else.

3. Trust in God.
Now, i'm not an overly religious person... i don't pray everyday (though i probably should) i dont go to church every week (though i probably should) BUT i do trust in God to guide me. I do believe that he has a plan for me. I'm not saying that He isn't giving me free will to make my own choices, but I know in the end, with His guidance, i'll end up exactly where i'm supposed to be.  

does it LOOK like i'm getting up anytime soon? i think not. hmpf.
4. Just when you think you can't get back up, get up!
My divorce really knocked me on my a$$. And there were days that i didn't want to face the world, face my family, even face my friends. But getting up and facing the music will only make you stronger. Just keep a positive attitude, try to learn from your experiences and remember "tomorrow is a new day".

5. If at first you don't succeed, try try again.
Because, really what else are you going to do? Be the old lady that has 50 cats? (Shout out to all the cat lovers out there!)
te hee hee...

Listen, i'm not saying the dating world isn't full of creepers... i've dated a creeper or ten in my past. like the guy that was a cop and told me he had unlimited access to any drug i wanted, or the guy that told me his nipples were "dry", or the guy who's pick up line was "hey baby, you're hot as F*ck" (what does that even MEAN? yet, i dated him for 3 months #fail) BUT... i met my husband on a night i was out with my girlfriends, having a good time, not looking for anything but being open to it. and if i wasn't willing to keep trying, we might not have ended up like we did.

our wedding day!

6. There are plenty of fish in the sea, date LOTS of them.

Because otherwise, how will you know what you like? Guys come in all different shapes, sizes (get your minds out of the gutter!) personalities and morals. The only way to know what you like is to sample what's out there (and my sample, i don't necessarily mean sleep with... unless you want to of course). And maybe have a few free dinners along the way! i kid i kid! Actually, i have kept in touch with many of my ex-boyfriends over the years, most of them are good guys... they just weren't the right guy for me.

7. Your girlfriends can be your greatest allies, don't lose sight of them

Yes, you're looking for love, but PLEASE don't be the girl that drops everything for a guy. Yes, i get it, you're excited, you're in love, you're so happy you shit rainbows and unicorns... and as your girl friend, i'm totally happy for you BUT i don't want to LOSE your friendship because you've met Mr. Right. Yes our bar hopping days may dwindle, but try to keep in mind there are other things we can do together - shopping, dinners, drooling over Edward Cullen... My girl friends were my ROCK when i went thru my tough times. They understood and didn't judge and tried to give me the best advice they could. But it was because I kept the connection going that whole time... I didn't just lean on them when I was in need... ya get where i'm going here?

8. Stand up for yourself.
Maybe the single most important thing i've finally learned (with a lot of help from my therapist). At the end of the day, no one is going to stand up for you except for you. And if you let someone mistreat you, walk all over you, take advantage of you, the only one you can REALLY blame is yourself. It took me a long time to do this. But when i finally realized what i was worth, it was life changing. I'm not saying not to be nice, generous, loving. But do not stand for someone that doesn't appreciate what you bring to the table. (Wow i sound like a self-help book huh?)

9. If you think he's "just not that into you", he's probably not!

As the book says, "if he's not moving mountains to be with you..." and honestly, i think this is true. my husband pursued me from the night we met. he texted me the next day and we went out that night. he knew what he wanted and went after it especially since i had a tight hot bod back then and skipped all the game playing and 3-day rule nonsense. your guy may not take as direct an approach, but if he's into you, he'll make it known. previous to my husband, i dated someone for a year and a half who wouldn't even officially make me his girlfriend. at the end of the day, i realized i wasn't enough of a priority in his life to have that status for whatever reason, hence, he just wasn't THAT into me. i said peace out and met my husband 2 weeks later!

10. He's not perfect and neither are you.
I mean, no one is really... many of us TRY to be, but there are going to be times when he messes up and there are going to be times when you mess up. And unless its a BIG mess up, try to learn from it and forgive. And hope he'll do the same for you. Bob Marley said it perfectly...

Well there ya have it. My wisdom passed down. I'm sure there's still a lot in life i have to learn like how to dougie. But, i've finally found my happy place. And I hope you find yours too. :)

Monday, February 13, 2012

Not the Best Way to Lose Weight and Other Weekend Ramblings...

Oh Mondays... you are back, wayyyy too quick this week. At least next week, we'll be off for President's Day... (hopefully that includes you!)

Anyway, I got a big 30 minute jump start to my weekend on Friday... I was feeling a bit under the weather but came home to a sweet surprise! G couldn't wait til Tuesday to give me my V-day gift, so it was waiting on the counter when i walked in...

Not one, but TWO Michael Kors bags... the note read, "i couldn't choose" and sadly I was only allowed to keep one... which i love love love love love. unfortunately my phone was dying and i didn't capture the 2 bags... but here's the one i ended up keeping... 

he also put flowers in both bags, and i got to keep both bouquets... :)
ain't they perrrty?

Our plan was to head to dinner at Buffalo Wild Wings, for some wings and brews and see if all the hype about the savior from the NY Knicks was true... (and it is, people, it is...)

Now I have ALWAYS been a Celtics fan... even traveled up to Boston for a weekend to go to a Celtics game. Paul Pierce is my guy... (i know PageTwentyTwo is cheering right now!) BUT, can i tell you... i got sucked into the Lin-sanity. #linning I won't lie, i like the kid bc he's asian. REPRESENT. (i know SeoulFresh is cheering) Not only that, he seems to be a good kid, who is grateful to both God and his family and is so humble that it just makes it hard not to like him. Anyway, the knicks won against the Lakers on Friday and then the Timberwolves on Saturday... G is all sorts of psyched and already making plans to get to a game with my bro...

So anyway, since i wasn't feeling super great, we ended up scrapping the dinner plans, grabbed a quick bite at the diner (i had a cup of matzoh ball soup) and headed home for the game. My bro showed up and the boys sat down with their beers and i sat down with my Christmas themed fleece. (Yes, i know its february, don't judge). I started feeling worse and worse. We're talking nausea like you wouldn't believe... so i figured i'd just hit the hay early... i went into the bedroom to lay down and what proceeded over the next 24 hours was the most horrifying sickness i have ever had to deal with. #dramaqueen.

DISCLAIMER: THIS IS GROSS. Do not read this if you're eating or get grossed out easily.

This is what i had:
Noroviruses (genus Norovirus, family Caliciviridae) are a group of related, single-stranded RNA, non-enveloped viruses that cause acute gastroenteritis in humans. The most common symptoms of acute gastroenteritis are diarrhea, vomiting, and stomach pain. Norovirus is the official genus name for the group of viruses previously described as “Norwalk-like viruses” (NLV).
Yup, i'll spare you the disgusting details, but will highlight some key points.
  1. I slept tried to doze on the couch, in a sitting up position because of the nausea and the proximity of the porcelain goddess.
  2. Saturday woke up with a fever and body aches, and stayed in bed all.day.long.
  3. WebMD diagnosed me with stomach cancer. {sweet, way to freak me out stupid webMD}
  4. My mom wanted me to check into the ER because i was super dehydrated, but i refused because i was literally afraid i'd shit my pants if i went anywhere. {how sad is that!}
  5. Gary did the food shopping for me and while i'm grateful, spent DOUBLE what i normally spend at the supermarket and bought so much JUNK food.
  6. i was only able to eat 3 crackers all day saturday. yesterday i managed a grilled cheese sandwich for the entire day.
  7. because of this (and the non-stop shitting) i lost 4lbs in 2 days. {though, i do NOT recommend this diet}
  8. i'm finally better today, but still a little scared to eat.
There was a news article that said about 20 students at Princeton University had come down with it and while i'm long past my college days (and certainly not smart enough for Princeton) i work close enough to the school that its totally plausible that i could have come in contact with someone in maybe either the CVS by work or somewhere like that.

The good news is, 36 hours later, i am totally fine and have recovered. [like a boss]

Please tell me your weekends were better than mine!

Friday, February 10, 2012

Fun Photo Friday: Jersey Shore Edition

Linking up with my Celtics lovin' girl Shannon for 

As i've missed the last couple weeks of this thanks to my company limiting our internet, i knew i had to get back on the FPF train today! AND yes, i'm at work, AND on the net... i'm SUCH a rebel! hee hee.

ANYWHO. A decade ago, before Jersey Shore was a show on MTV, it was the place to be all summer, every summer. My friends and i used to live spend time down there. The music's and the guidos are still the same but since then, we've gotten old matured. My pretty friend on my far right even has two little adorable girls... Our favorite stomping grounds were down in Seaside but before Karma even existed! The place was called Temptations or Temps... we also used to hit up Bamboo & Merge, which are still there... Those were the days of staying out all night, dancing, drinking, flirting  and coming home when the sun was coming up...

You'll notice for the most part, we're pretty dressed down... Literally wearing sweats and totally casual. The reason being? We were there to dance.... We didn't care about boys, about drinking, or about hooking up... we were there to work our assets out on the dance floor... Sunday nights were famous for their party with resident DJ Denny Tsettos... who was HUGE in his day for spinning the sickest house/techno music... and you guessed it... making everybody there throw their hands in the air and bust out a fist pump or two. The video below is at Karma, and was a Tempts reunion... such a throwback to the good old days!

Oh and BTW, the girl to my left... not in the current circle of friends anymore... sometimes best friends DON'T last forever. And so we move on... hence the mad face in case you were wondering.

Even though things have changed over the years, i would totally love to go back to one of those crazy dance-your-ass off and not have a care in the world nights... just let the music flow through you and i guarantee that fist will soon be in the air... *wink*

Happy Fist-Pumping Friday Loves!

Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Taking 5.

Oh hai!
Long time no talky to!

i know i know, i've been the world's WORST blogger lately...
this whole limited internet at work thing is REALLY the pits.
and i know you've all been just DYING to know what i've been up to lately!
(besides putting glasses on my dog...)

Well here are some fun pics to recap...

i've been...
Trying out new OOTD's...

vest - kohls
brown shirt - target
pants - H&M
boots - aldo

babysitting this cutie patootie!
and she had a LOT of energy!
oh and we watched Dora Shapes and Colors.
3 times.

chill-axin' in bed with the dog that thinks he's a person...
excuse the double chin. 
clearly i have not been hitting the gym.

trying to come up with new words in Scramble with Friends...
i really think THIS should have been a word!!

playing hooky to go skiing!
and for those of you who were wondering, 
no i did not actually get up to 47.7 speed.
i just forgot to shut the app off when we got in the car... oopsy!
my max speed was about 22mph. #baller
and then i face planted.
and sprained my arm. #nospringchicken
but, we had a great day and i got to spend the day with my hunny!
what have you been up to lately?